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People ask why I’m giving How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways away for free. After all, my profession is writing books. Ever since I developed a strong spiritual relationship with God, I don’t worry about making money. During the days when I hated myself, I worried about everything. Now, I follow the path that unfolds before me in total faith. When my mom died suddenly, I spent time in her apartment, cleaning it out slowly. I’d just given my agent at the time the proposal for How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways.
My best friend came over and I told her how blessed I felt to love myself so much after years of being an unhappy DoorMat and lamented that once my book was published, many people who needed it might not have access to read it. That night, as I ran along the water, I got a clear message that I had to serve God by giving the book away for free.
I called my agent in the morning and told him to take the book off the market. I know he probably thought I’d lost my mind grieving. But actually the excitement I felt about being able to help more people helped me heal. I eventually want to raise the money to make print copies and give them away to people who don’t have access to reading the book online. I know that it will happen at the perfect time!
How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways encourages building self-love on a realistic level, with many easy-to-follow suggestions and effective techniques in every chapter. You can get out of the habit of focusing on your shortcomings and get into the habit of giving your positive qualities more attention. You CAN break the habit of treating others better than you and get into the habit of being more loving to yourself. A conscious effort can help you break unloving habits so you can nurture your way to feel better about you. I provide understanding and tools for changing habits.
I interviewed many women and men who shared their stories and thoughts about self-love—clients, participants in support groups and people who heard me speak. I gave out questionnaires in my travels and by email and often got into conversations with people who I said things that I wrote down and included.
Self-love begins and ends with YOU feeling good about YOU, right here and now. Setting boundaries—and meaning it—for not tolerating a sarcastic romantic partner, dominating parent, tough boss, mean friend, etc. and not letting what they say or do erode your self-esteem are all acts of self-love Every little thing you do to take more control over your life—being on time once, when you’re usually late, cutting down on sugar or cigarettes for one day, making your bed at least sometimes, showing an effort to take vitamins, not using negative words when you make a mistake, saying “no” even once, standing up to someone who treats you poorly—every little bit of control over your life is an act of self-love because it makes you feel better, at least for the moment.
When these self-loving acts add up, self-love grows.
How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways begins by providing an understanding of what good self-esteem is and how it can be achieved by showing yourself love. It then explains how different aspects of our lives affect self-love. Age, weight, general appearance and position in society affect how we feel about ourselves. Each chapter details how to maximize the positives. The book is filled with tools for enhancing self-love, including an assortment of ways to develop and nurture your sense of self, spiritual side, and confidence. Each chapter is pro-active and sprinkled with “I love me” tips, which give specific things the reader can do to be loving to self.
Most people know that it’s time to fall in love with themselves but don’t know how. How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways covers every facet of life that contributes to the growth of self-esteem and self-love, with simple, practical, satisfying, and loving ways to work with what you have. I want you to find a place of self-fulfillment by loving yourself more!
